Nobody likes being alone. Everybody wants to find someone, and the online dating community is one of the best places to find that special somebody for you.

However, you will probably have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince or princess. Not only will you reject some of the people you meet online, for various reasons, you will probably experience online rejection yourself.

Dealing with online rejection, similarly to dealing with rejection in real life, is hard. You might find a profile that you like and write to that person, and then wait for a reply, and wait and wait, and it never comes. Or, they might write back, and it might seem like things are moving in the right direction, until the other person just disappears without an explanation, or with a painful one that leaves you feeling crushed.

We want to help you avoid that terrible feeling, so here are 7 tips to help you deal with online dating rejection:

1. Don’t get emotionally invested too quickly. You should at least meet a person before you get too attached to them. Even though chatting online might make you feel like you have a connection with the other person, try not to get overly excited. It’s important not to look at every interesting profile as your next husband, wife or partner. That way, if rejection comes your way, your emotional reaction will be much less extreme.

2. Be relaxed about the searching process. If it works out, great. If it doesn’t, don’t worry about it too much. A lighthearted attitude will make for a less painful rejection.

3. Remind yourself that you’re awesome. So what if this person isn’t interested in you. It’s their loss. It’s time to remind yourself of your good qualities and your impressive achievements. They are missing out on a great person.

4. Learn from your mistake. Alright, so you got rejected, it hurts; but this can also be a learning opportunity. You might want to check if you did something wrong. Were you too aggressive? Did you make an inappropriate comment? Did you sound too generic or uninterested? Every rejection is also an opportunity for improvement.

5. They probably weren’t the right person for you anyway. I know is sounds like a cliché, but maybe it wasn’t you, it was them. There are reasons why people reject other people. They might not be single in the first place, in which case you were saved from a very uncomfortable situation. They might not be willing to handle a complex person like you. Don’t think about the experience as a missed opportunity, but rather as a bullet you dodged.

6. Keep your social life busy at all times. Rejection is easier to take when you have good support. Having a busy social life reminds you that there are people who like you just the way you are. This is a good counterbalance to the painful feeling of rejection.

7. It happens to everyone. It can feel lonely, but don’t forget that it’s not just you who has been rejected. You probably rejected others as well. Maybe, you even used the conventional method of simply not responding any more, or just rejected someone without explaining why. Being rejected happens to everyone, and it’s not the end of the world.

8. Move on. It’s important not to give up. You can take a day or two away from dating sites to recover from rejection, but it’s important to get back out there. Don’t let yourself get too down about it. The best way to move on is moving on to someone else, so just log in and continue your search.

Jake Soto
Jake is photographer residing in free spirited San Francisco. He loves documenting things with his camera on a daily basis. He was not into dating sites until hearing some great stories when he became a dedicated user himself. “Dating sites are detailed, visual and versatile, just like photography”. Jake is a regular contributor to the Top 5 Dating blog.
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