Break-ups are harsh for everyone. Most of us know this from experience… unless, of course, you are one of those lucky few who married their high school sweetheart and went on to live happily ever after. Well, it does happens, but in most cases people go through several break-ups during the lifetime. So, you are not the first, the last or the only person who has been dumped.

What should you do to move past a breakup and get over your ex? Here are a few tricks that work:

Get out of bed

The first and most natural tendency anyone has when feeling blue is to stay in their pyjamas and watch TV in bed. This may work for a day or two, but are you actually planning to hide inside your apartment for weeks and months in a row? Get out of bed, take a shower, put on some nice clothes and get out there! Life goes on even after a break-up. Catch up with a friend or two you haven’t seen in a while. Give them a call, get together over a coffee, dinner or a late night drink to catch up. You’ll soon understand how easy it is to forget all about your ex, at least for a couple of hours.

Meet new people

We wouldn’t recommend rushing into a new relationship just to forget about the one that’s ended, but you should always be open to meeting new people and even dating. Registering with an online dating service might be a good idea.

You can spend some enjoyable hours chatting with other people, socialize and, who knows, maybe even get a date or two. Getting to know different kinds of people can be therapeutic after a break-up. It helps you understand that your world is not limited to one single person.

Dedicate time to your hobby

Your relationship was consuming a lot of your time and you neglected your hobby for a while? It’s time to spend some time catching up on your favourite activity. If you don’t have a hobby, don’t worry. It’s never too late to pick up one. Just think about the things you enjoy doing. Taking pictures? Hiking? Yoga? Lego?

Group activities are recommended. They represent a good opportunity of getting to know likeminded people, which is always a good basis for making new friends.

See a therapist

While not compulsory, seeing a therapist is most often a good idea when dealing with a breakup. It’s the safest way to talk about your feelings and get professional advice. If seeing a shrink is too much for you, at least try to talk about how you feel with a friend you trust, and whose opinion you appreciate.

Keep yourself busy

One very good way of dealing with a breakup is to keep yourself busy and not allow yourself to fall back into bed. Make sure your agenda is filled with social activities and your to-do list gets longer every day. See friends, join the gym or a reading club, go to the theatre, plan trips, and remember: the right person for you is out there, but they won’t find you if you’re moping at home in your pyjamas.

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Emma Walters
Emma is an arts and science student graduating this year from NYU. She loves New York City and writes about her big city single-hood experiences. “Being single in the Big Apple is more of a task than a status”, she says, “Dating sites are great for socializing, especially if you’re new in town”. Emma is a regular contributor to the Top 5 Dating blog.
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