17 Polite Texts to Send When You’re Not Feeling the Spark (Instead of Ghosting)

Ghosting—vanishing without a trace after a connection, however brief, has been made—has unfortunately become a common way to bow out of modern relationships. It’s quick, it’s easy, but it leaves the other person hanging in uncertainty, wondering what went wrong. We’ve all heard stories, or even lived them, where once-vibrant conversations turn into radio silence, leaving one party to second-guess their self-worth. While ghosting may feel like the easiest route to take, we can all agree it’s not the kindest.

But here’s the thing: a little honesty goes a long way. It’s entirely possible to step back gracefully, without disappearing into the digital abyss. So, if you find yourself on the verge of ghosting someone, pause. Instead of leaving them hanging, why not send a thoughtful message? Below, we’ve crafted a few friendly, respectful texts that make ending things a little less harsh—and much more human. Trust us, you’ll feel better for it.

1. “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed chatting, but I don’t see this turning into anything romantic. Wishing you the best!”

2. “I wanted to be upfront—I’ve recently started seeing someone else, and I want to explore that. It was nice meeting you!”

3. “You’re wonderful and I enjoyed our date, but I just don’t feel a romantic connection between us. I think we’re better off as friends!”

4. “I realized I’m not ready to date right now and don’t want to lead you on. I really hope you find what you’re looking for!”

5. “Hey, I had a fun time the other night, but I don’t think we’re a great match long-term.”

6. “It’s been really nice getting to know you, but I’m looking for something a bit different. Good luck!”

7. “I just wanted to let you know that I’m at a point in my life where I need to focus on myself right now. Thanks for understanding.”

8. “You’re great, but I think we’d be better off as friends. Best of luck!”

9. “I’ve thought about it, and while I had a great time, I don’t think we’re quite compatible. Good luck in your search!”

10. “Thank you for the date! You’re a cool person, but I’m not really feeling the spark between us.”

11. “I’ve enjoyed our conversations, but I’ve realized we’re not looking for the same things right now. I wish you all the best!”

12. “I thought I was ready to date, but I think I need more time for myself. I really hope you understand.”

13. “I wanted to be honest—I’m not feeling a strong romantic vibe. You’re awesome, but I think we should part ways here.”

14. “I had a nice time, but I think our priorities are a bit different. Wishing you the best in your journey!”

15. “It was really fun hanging out, but I’m not feeling a long-term connection. I hope you find someone great!”

16. “Thanks for spending time with me! I didn’t feel a romantic connection, but I’m wishing you luck with everything.”

17. “In the spirit of being honest, I’ve realized I’m looking for something different. Take care!”

Dating isn’t always a fairy tale of perfect matches and magical moments. Sometimes, it’s a process of trial and error, learning what (and who) works for you along the way. But that’s what makes it worthwhile—the journey to finding someone who truly clicks. Instead of letting ghosting become just another part of modern dating, why not take the extra step and send a thoughtful text? It’s a simple, kind, and honest way to close the door respectfully, leaving both you and the other person better off. Who knows, maybe karma will reward you with someone who never skips ahead on your favorite show! Finally, if you feel like you’re being punished by the dating app algorithm, have no fear. In our next article, you can read all about how to make it work in your favor.